Seeing This Child From Wholeness


“Nothing could have prepared / Your heart to open like this.” – John O’Donohue

Focusing on one child at a time, try to hold the epic vision from beloved infant to unknown adult. Gently nurture this picture of wholeness with a soft gaze, an open heart and all the love you have. If you listen for the whispers of angels and trust them to speak, they will guide you to a place of deep vision. Follow blindly; you will be led to light.


  • List this child’s gifts and strengths.
  • What comes effortlessly to this child?
  • What is this child’s weakness or area of biggest struggle?
  • What needs to be brought to balance?
  • Name one thing this child needs every single day.
  • How can this child thrive?

After sitting with these questions, journaling about the answers and then giving yourself some time and distance, move onto the following section.

  • Ask your heart for an insight into this child.
  • Name a single intention to be held during the upcoming homeschool year for this child in each of the following areas: Academic, Physical, Spiritual/Emotional
  • Make a promise to this child. I love you and promise to  . . .


“Parents are invisible creators. Quietly, day after day, their care and kindness nurture and foster the unseen landscapes of their children’s minds. On the life journey of each individual the nature of the mind determines what is seen and valued. In The Symposium, Plato said so beautifully that one of the highest human privileges is to “be midwife to the birth of the soul in another.” This is the precious and eternal work that parents do; they do this unobtrusively and continuously.” – John O’Donohue, To Bless the Space Between Us

Find and frame a favorite photograph of this child, preferable one that is at least a few years old. Place it in the room in which you seem to have recurring difficulties (bedtime? bath time? math time?). When you are in one of those difficult moments, shift your gaze toward the photograph. Let your heart be flooded with unabashed love for this child. Remember how quickly time passes. Ask for the grace to see this moment as fleeting. Ask for whatever else you need. Try to hold the moment in the photograph and the moment currently unfolding together in your heart.


  • Brené Brown has a beautiful, printable Parenting Manifesto.
  • Soule Mama is one of my favorite parenting blogs – this recent post is one reason why.
  • Brian Andreas’ musings on parenting and children frequently bring me to tears.
  • The quotation under the photo above comes from this poem by John O’Donohue.


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6 thoughts on “Seeing This Child From Wholeness

  1. Shiela, this is beautiful. I will be sharing with all the moms in my life, homeschoolers or not. Thank you for sharing.

  2. I, too, want to thank you for the quotes, links, questions, meditation – all of it! Your posts are always thought-provoking, encouraging, hopeful – and timely.

  3. Pingback: Looking Ahead from Wholeness | Sure as the World

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